Nagging is counterproductive, ineffective and puts a strain on your relationships Instead, try some of these ways to get what you want. Some are so easy you can start doing them immediately while you work your way up to the more advanced strategies. The key to overcoming strain is daily practise of this 14 alternatives.
Doing the same unproductive thing but expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. If you still need to convince yourself that nagging fails to get results, try counting how many times you say the same thing. The tenth, eleventh or twelfth time is likely to turn out the same as the rest nine attempts. You have nothing to loose or wait maybe your frustration and everything to gain by trying a new approach.
Your attention goes where you focus the most. Keep your eye on the big picture. When you think about how your family, friends, and colleagues enrich your life, it’s easier to cut them some slack on the less pleasant details of your interactions.
Self reliance is the best guaranty to getting anything done. It may be faster and more satisfying to complete a task yourself rather than waiting for someone else to do it. Learn to replace the air filter in your car. Sweep the stairs or wash the dishes even when your spouse was going to do those jobs this week.
Let your kids know that you appreciate their willingness to help out even if their methods are different from your own. Smoothing out the bedspread makes the room look tidier even if you have to give up on hospital corners.
Maybe your kids surprise you with a science fair project due the next morning on the same evening when you usually go grocery shopping. Eating tuna sandwiches for a week may help them understand the importance of giving you adequate notice.
Consider paying professionals for chores that cause ongoing conflicts. A weekly housecleaning service may be worth the investment. Find another parent at your kid’s school who wants to take turns driving them to soccer practice.
Chronic irritability is often a sign that you’re trying to do too much. Figure out which responsibilities are priorities and which you can put aside.
When sending emails or social media messages, you must create an adequate atmosphere by choosing an appealing subject for emails and social media messages. Write something like this “To read when you need me” or “For your eyes only” calendar reminders deliver the same information with less risk of putting people on the defensive. Remind your partner that you have a dinner party tonight without saying a word.
Practice taking 6 deep breathes in and out this movement of air in the brain works like magic to calming down. Deal with sensitive subjects when you’re feeling calm and collected. Sometimes the best thing you can do is take a walk until you settle down.
Probe more deeply to see if nagging is a symptom of deeper issues in your relationships. Marital counseling or parenting classes may help you get to the bottom of what’s going on.
Work up the courage to state what you need clearly and tactfully. One skillful message beats years of beating around the bush.
Concentrate on what the other person is saying and confirm that you understand. It’s easier to cooperate with each other when we feel validated and cared for.
Awareness of self is the key to self-esteem. Some studies suggest that women are more prone to nagging because they feel like they have less power. Encourage yourself with positive self-talk and pursue meaningful goals. Feeling strong and secure makes you less vulnerable to finding faults in others. Happiness is a state of being. When to be happy is now! You cannot be happy yesterday. Neither can you be happy tomorrow. This awareness of self will greatly improve your self-esteem and when this happens you will be be less vulnerable to nding faults in others.
IF YOU’RE TIRED OF REPEATING THE SAME REQUESTS WITHOUT GETTING THE RESULTS YOU DESIRE, IT’S TIME TO TRY SOME ALTERNATIVES TO NAGGING. CHANGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS AND IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS. YOU MAY WIND UP WITH HAPPIER FAMILY LIFE AND A CLEANER HOUSE.
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